Dear Russ & June,
Thank you for sharing your beautiful album-journal with me. As Russ knows how I still feel about the baby I lost to a miscarriage, it helps a great deal that other people are wanting to share their sympathy & concern. I have written in my journal things I never verbalized before & feel a lot better. It’s been eleven years since my miscarriage and it is amazing how much it still affects me.
I truly admire what you two are doing and thankful that God has touched you in this way.
Thank you again,
Yours in Christ, J.S. | Colorado Springs.
“…when you lose that life (the baby), where do you put it? I remember the day that I got that bag in my hand (with the album) and I remember looking through there…and for the first time thinking, “hello Christopher, welcome back- you’re a part of our family…the permission and the freedom that that gave me as a mother…this album has freed me…why is it that we are not teaching women or giving them tools and resources to cherish what we’ve been given? This album provides a tangible way to do that.S.N. | Colorado Springs
When a couple loses a baby, healing comes not from the forgetting, but remembering. When a baby dies at birth or shortly after, nobody has known that baby so there are no communal memories.
Mementos play an important part in the grieving process by allowing parents to create memories of their child and bring reality to the life of their child.
As bereavement coordinator at Memorial Hospital’s NICU for over 10 years, I realized there was a profound need for grieving parents to have a way of remembering their baby. Baby albums are an intrinsic part of most new parents’ memories of their child’s birth and early childhood but the usual baby book does not apply. Because of this, the bereaved parents are left without their precious baby and without a way of remembering them.
Since June and Russ Gordon’s development of the memories album, the parents of infants that have died in the NICU now have a way to remember. The album provides statements to encourage journaling which is very therapeutic in dealing with loss. Our families have expressed such gratitude in having an album available for their very special baby and the healing that came from it.
Every bereaved parent, in my opinion, would benefit from the caring and gentle manner in which the album supports families through their grief journey.Sue Stack, RN | NICU Clinical Coordinator | NICU Bereavement Coordinator | Memorial Hospital NICU